Everyone has different experiences, but having a miscarriage is one of most devastating things to have to go through. My emotions were all over the place, and I was feeling alone and at times the feeling of grief was inconsolable and overwhelming!
I think it is assumed by many that once you have a child after your miscarriage, you forget. I wrote this title as “Coping”, because in reality I don’t think you ever get over our miscarriage.
How did I cope and handle my miscarriage? Initially I had a hard time, and as usual closed off all my emotions and wasn’t able to deal well with what happened. Even though I knew in my head that it wasn’t our fault, my heart could not accept it. I just kept going over and over about what happened. Asking myself, did I do something wrong? Is something wrong with me? My body? I think it was worse for me because I didn’t speak to anyone about it or acknowledge what happened – but kept asking myself these questions and crying through the night. This went on for a few months. I just couldn’t deal with the situation, and it was like I was expected to forget and start trying to have another baby immediately.
So how did I cope and learn to deal with the miscarriage?
- I finally acknowledged that what happened was not my fault and there was nothing that I could have done to prevented it.
- I spoke to people about how I was feeling and realized that so many others have gone through the same thing I did.
- I started speaking to The Husband about my feelings.
I just wanted to use this platform and speak to those who are going through this situation right now. The most important thing is TALK to somebody about your feelings. Don’t be scared or feel like something is wrong with you if this has happened to you. I haven’t ever forgotten and I don’t think I ever will. I might not think about it everyday, but I still have moments of sadness, but then I look at my baby girl and immediately a smile comes to my face. I can’t help but be thankful and praise God every single day for the little miracle that was born.